Someone I know is having a foot amputated today. His father, who has been updating everyone on his son's condition, posted a meme this morning, the day his son's foot is being amputated.
Not only am I a Worry Monster, but I guess I am also a Sensitive Sally. (scroll past poll for meme)
Is this insensitive?
- Wow. That is kinda mean.
- It's fine. His son needs to buck up.
- It's actually very kind of him.
- On the fence.
If the amputee is the same one who was recently featured here for his stubborn anti-vax stance, I would say he really needs to heed #5 above all the others!
Unfortunately, many people are stupid and useless in a crisis, and the self-help turds are usually the worst.
I try to approach these types of posts from that basic premise ("they know not what they do"), so that I don't get so mad at them. It doesn't always work.
Ugh. That meme is fucking awful, and that Dad is fucking awful, and I hope the son gets through his surgery and recovery well (unless he is also just awful, in which case IDGAF).
Is he, perhaps, so selfish that he didn’t even think of this meme in terms of his son, but of himself? Meaning, it’s all about him bucking up to handle the pain of his son’s amputation? People are extraordinarily selfish so I wouldn’t be shocked if the dude never even grasped how it would be construed.
I have had the displeasure of lying on an operating table and my surgeon all masked up looked at me and said "I can't operate today, you need to go home and think about amputating your leg."
If my dad had said anything remotely like that guy I would have fucking smashed him in the face and knocked him out.
I didn't need to do anything like that because my dad wasn't a Cunt. He loved me dearly.
I had a conversation with my mum. I told her "I can't do this." All I could think of is when you are born the first thing they do is check that all your limbs and fingers and toes are intact.
It cost 3 million dollars and so many years of unbearable pain to save my leg. And I would do it again in a heartbeat.
I didn't vote because there is no Cunt option.
My heart goes out to that poor kid.
#1 grief is a normal part of loss. Many/most people don’t just ”move on” from loss.
***WARNING I USED THE "C" WORD, AS WELL AS OTHER BAD WORDS, PLEASE DON'T READ IF YOU CAN'T TAKE IT***
WTF is that shit... Dad needs to STFU! You dick, you need to be there for your son, he's going thru a major surgery, having a foot amputated, for whatever reason, that in and of itself is a horrific thing to go thru, much less with this asshole telling him to buck up. I'm gonna go thru the list on the meme so here goes: #2: They embrace change, yeah look asshole, I am pretty sure this ISN'T the kind of change they were talking about when they made that meme. #3: They stay happy, and don't waste time on things they can't control, dude, Fuck You. I think your son has every right to feel sad, if not worse about this entire situation. And when you go thru a major life-changing event such as having a friggin foot amputated, that person will go thru a period of mourning so to speak. So instead of being a total asshole, you should be there for your son, no matter what, and let him feel whatever the hell he wants to feel, FFS. #4: They are kind and willing to speak up, well I am sure your son will continue to stay kind, and with having a total cunt for a father, well he should speak up regarding that. #5: They are willing to take calculated risks. WTF is that? Seriously!? I am pretty sure this isn't an ELECTIVE surgery, so this number doesn't even apply for this horrible life-changing event. Dumbass.
#6: They celebrate other people's success, you fucking idiot, this number HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH ANYTHING!! Tell your friend to speak up and tell his father to BUCK UP, and be a supportive father during this challenging time. Grrrr....😡
Not sure who came up with that list but there’s some bullshit in there. Actually all are suspect.
What an ass. He doesn't think having a foot amputated is any big deal? Maybe he should have it done and see what he feels like after?
"Hey Dad, you aren't happy? Why not? Now you don't have to put on two socks any more! Smile!"
Maybe he's just encouraging the son to face his inevitable hardships. Or, he could be a dick.
I think the father is a dick, but that wasn't a choice, so I didn't vote.
He could have let the son speak for himself. I don't know. It's weird.
Out of respect for this man faced with life changing circumstance, and any others who find themselves lacking functional parental guidance through life, my vote would be for an addition to Dad's insensitive list. Knowledge is power when son is up to the task.
7. They recognize that dumping a fucking insensitive sicko loser for a Dad will do amazing wonders in improving your life moving forward.
Also, wishing him well in his recovery!